Reddit husband found out i was promiscuous We had such a great time meeting and talking that we sought each other out on FB the next day and started talking everyday. And way to be incredibly judgmental of my past. When I found out he cheated on me (texting at the least) I felt so relieved. I found out last week that my husband never loved me. Some guys might be uncomfortable with it, but understanding about it. We have been dating for 5 months and she is Been struggling as of late. I found out one night when I was nursing our 4 week old daughter and Well, if this is something I just found out about my husbAnd, then no. My husband was a rebound and I was still in contact with my ex for whom I had feelings. I fell asleep at my APs house after I told my husband I was going out with friends. We been married 25 years and have three kids and I’m still the most promiscuous person I know. I'm lost. I know exactly how you feel. You need to ask her where the money was going. Do you really think this woman loved fucking her clients? No she didn’t, she was putting on a show to them to get them to pay her. My (33F) Fiancè (30M) is being cold towards me after he found out about my past. I don't know what to do. He then told me about a 3some he had in college which I think is totally made up and he just wanted to get a rise out of me but who knows. If being promiscuous isn’t the issue then why didn’t he marry women with the same past as him then? Why was it a dealbreaker for him if a women is promiscuous, does he think that they don’t deserve marriage too? Why out of people after him being promiscuous would he choose someone with no experience. You might have a fear that you won’t measure up to her partners in the past. I stopped talking to the other man and knew what I did was wrong. Please tell me what exactly I can do, my confidence as a man has been destroyed. Not good-looking and not popular, but he was out-going, in a band, was kind of aggressive and so on. But from my understanding, things will probably just end with a divorce and him getting fired. The thing is, I love my husband, and this guy was a younger version of my husband, making me feel young. That is more judgmental IMO. I've been with about 16 men, my husband has been with over 40 women. And denying husband what you give someone else is My husband knew something was up; not only was I early, but I pulled in fast, slammed the door, and was stomping to the front door. I found out her numbers are seriously high a few months into the relationship, we are talking 70 or 80 guys and she lost her Virginity at 14 so that works out 70/80 people over 3 years. I just take as a challenge to be better than guys before me I’m fine with it now, and I still don’t know why I lied back then but I did. My husband is a great manipulator and I put up blinders. I was promiscuous when I was younger, got with my husband and have never once cheated in these past 15 years. I love my husband very much and we have two wonderful children together and he promises me that it was a one time mistake he made when he was young but I still can't get over it. It's like we're born with this idea to know that if our partner has slept with many men then that is wrong, and devalues the entire relationship. she dated 10 guys (at least) before she was 18. (Turns out that this was a problem in every single one of her Before my girlfriend and I got together, she had been with a fair amount of other guys. how do I (23F) Update: Don't date those guys. I found out from that guy‘s wife and confronted my wife about it. Unfortunately, I think the truth will come out eventually. Had some alpha traits). In this case he does not want to be with a promiscuous woman so it would have been wise to find out about her sexual history sooner. This is the most recent one that I have found out about (three days ago). Plus she doesn't know them. I just started seeing him beginning of June. The few with success stories will come out but the stats and the experience of people in confession positions e. Even if they are “reformed” it just poses a risk and fundamental compatibility issue. Two days ago I was hanging out with a friend and I told her what was going on and she told me I needed to be careful as it sounded like he was doing "extra curricular acrivities" while That being said, I don’t think I would. Found out wife already gave some of herself away. why he lashed out), is not a partner, but a glorified roommate When he found out, he texted me that he is ending the relationship because I lied to him. I wish you the A girlfriend of mine just found out her husband cheated on her. I work nights on the weekend and usually head to bed around 5:30am, and my husband usually wakes up when I go to bed. During the pandemic. I'm very angry and upset but I'm not sure I have the right to be. Now he’s more upset she found out she’s married than that our family has been torn apart. My wife stuck her tongue out in a very sexy seductive way. Settled for a beta. If I was a girl, I know exactly how you feel. So he just said "shit, what happened?" And I told him Come to find out that the woman (28F) I’ve been with for a year used to sleep around a lot for fun. I am devastated right now. Then his reaction was anger. We’ve only met in December, but I became really attached to him. He found out about my body count in the beginning of January. I am not The OOP, OOP is u/ThrowRA434 . A tantrum from a small child is fine, but a partner who is not willing to express themselves to their other half in not only intimate emotional and sexual means, but in immediate emotional needs (i. Oh and let’s not forget she spent the night with one too. Having sex does not devalue a person. On Saturday morning I woke up earlier than my husband, he was very hungover so he was like sleeping a rock. After 25 years, he wanted to pursue his career and left me, marrying someone from a foreign country the same age as our oldest daughter Two years later I met a great man and married him. It’s a challenging situation that requires TL;DR Found out fiance slept with a ton of guys before we got together. Originally posted to r/relationship_advice. Married for 10 yrs doesn't mean jack. I took off my clothes and snuggled up to my husband and accidentally woke him up. Cleaning out the basement, my (35f) husband (38m) found a couple of old boxes of mine from my younger days. Also realize that sex is natural and fun and a lot of the controversy around promiscuous women is deeply rooted in misogyny and has no implication on the worth of a woman (I’d argue it’s perpetuated out of insecurity by men with small penises). To avoid going into too much detail, my sister recently found out and alerted my husband behind my back. clergymen and marriage counsellors can attest that promiscuity is a bad idea on average. Before I found out about this, I tried to get my wife to open up sexually but she completely shot it Posted by u/Gym_Bro8646 - No votes and 4 comments I realize that most on reddit disagree with sharing that info in a relationship but my SO and I decided we would be open about everything from the a few days ago my (25F) ex boyfriend (26M) contacted me because he needed a favor from my family, and I talked to him so that my family can help him and then he began to ask me about my husband (37M) and told me that he is married too and that his wife recently had a baby, and I swear it was all very friendly, he never spoke to me with an ulterior motive and neither did I. I don’t know how I feel about dating her now. i know that sounds bad, but it was before i even met my boyfriend, ‘M’ (27) of 9 months. Initially when we were dating she told me certain things were things she had never done before and didn't want to try. I (34f) have been married to my husband (36m) for over 10 years. Things became very ugly between us. (Not a typical beta. I recently found out that my husband cheated on me while we were dating in high school. I read your post and it showed that you only cared about your marriage and husband once he found out, because it “impacted your marriage”. I(32F) met my husband 5 years ago. It affected him very much because he didn't really know much about it. 2 years later (3 years ago), I met my fiance and he's the BEST! I (28M) accidentally found out the body count of my GF of three months (25F) and I think I am on the verge of breaking up with her Jane and I met through a work function (we work in the same field) a few months ago and went on a few dates. And denying husband what you give someone else is stupid. My husband and I met at a wedding that I was attending 2K miles away from where I lived. Some states have no statute on when you can file after finding out. And we’re currently on a beach vacation (it’s nap time which is why I’m on reddit, the routine stops for no reason) with a Get the Reddit app Scan this QR code to download the app now. Husband seemed pretty defeated today. I was dating my husband since we were 15 and I put out for him and all his friends. I just can’t believe that he could fool me. have a serious relationship, not a marriage or kids), but everyone I went out with at that time was either disinterested in relationships in general or disinterested in a relationship with me specifically. My husband and I have been married for 5 years and before I met my husband I was very promiscuous. If you felt coerced into activities, then you were not really "promiscuous", but more abused, and that is a completely different ball game. We been married 25 years and have three kids and I’m still the most My husband and I are both 34 and got married 1 year ago. She had a prior fling with this same person earlier this year. One box contained some old notes and letters and other keepsakes from an old boyfriend (we dated for two years in my early 20s). Since 2019, I think it's something like 19 or 20 people. If I were to become single again I would totally go back to (safe, consensual) casual sex with people not of my immediate social circle. He was kind and silly and he made me feel loved. But considering how little it feels like I know him, I honestly can't tell with him anymore. It verifies your husband as second class in your mind at best - you give a rival something you won’t give your husband. When I The man found out his wife is a liar, cheater, participated in group sex, and saw the amateur porn clip all at the same time. 12M subscribers in the relationship_advice community. Mine is in double digits and higher than most people’s. He admitted the only thing he cared about was the “gangbang” and he told me he couldn’t get the visual out of his head. I’m not sure why I feel this way. I don't find the pursuit of novelty to be a concern. Like I kept gaslighting myself to stay married to him telling myself he’s not that bad (he is). Next thing you know, I found myself having an affair. Wasn't mad at him, even told him how much I Were you promiscuous in your youth and, if yes, was almost a requirement (along with rock n roll on drugs). He said they got into an argument and she 60 votes, 35 comments. This is all major cause for concern. Basically I found out that my husband and my older sister had a one night stand before I met him. The only thing I could think of that would offend my sensibilities as you say would be something similar to the big topic last week where the I don’t care to be promiscuous myself and never have been so it’s not hypocritical. My wife was out with her friends and they took a selfie. At first he didn't believe me. Her husband found out and told her not to jog with me so problem solved. I told her off publicly and now they (34m) or the rest of the family after he found out that he was left out of our grandmas will. I knew this before we got together and it makes me a little but uncomfortable but it’s no big deal. It would take a miracle to come back from that. Before him, I had gone through many promiscuous years but also some long term relationships What happen is, women are significant more promiscuous in their younger years, and I mean significantly more promiscuous, younger men aren't even close to scratching their numbers; Today I found out my husband cheated on me. We have a great relationship, but I I know this isn’t the best place to lay all this out but here it goes: I’m (27M) in a monogamous relationship with a girl (28F) that I was friends with in high school. My husband's wired differently, and he can. Or Boyfriend (26M) was liking promiscuous pictures of girls for the first 6 months we were together. My (41F) husband (39M) just found out after 18 years of marriage that I lied about my sexual past and it is crumbling our marriage. Thanks to u/Acrobatic-Narwhal-62 for suggesting this BoRU. Honestly I had picked up some weird vibes myself but certainly don’t consider myself the type women throw themselves at. It has taken the spark out of the relationship with her and I feel as if it has ruined I(23M) just found out that my girlfriend(26F) was VERY promiscuous in the past, and my insecurities are really starting to get to me. I honestly though that my life was a dream come true. I also started doing IC for my own issues. And I also love to fuck him. I remember thinking my reasons for leaving him aren’t good enough to tear this family apart. I am the same as OP, whores gross me out. At parties with her friends, I started hearing about how promiscuous she had been in her younger years, Why has she been so promiscuous? Do you think her promiscuity is a life-long issue? If not, how should I go about helping her? Psychologist’s Reply. A year into the marriage, I contracted an STD and found out she had it since her teens. I am saying you should reconsider your past. I brought this up with my husband and he We have a great relationship, but I recently discovered she was extremely promiscuous in high school and found out she slept with many of our friends, some of whom I am in a relationship with a wonderful man of 60 and I myself am 59 years young and have had a very turbulent promiscuous life style since my early 20's. Found out from the guy she was using, he came forward and felt horrible when he found out. Although I’m not morally opposed Lol it was me too. he made it clear he wasn’t interested in a romantic relationship, so we just hooked up and hung out a few times a month. she dated AT LEAST 20 guys before she was 25. I am deeply in love with my husband and I thought he loved me too. I'm sorry, but I can't imagine any good coming out of calling a 14 year old girl a slut. Recently found out my [25/M] fiance Some people, mostly women, don't understand why your wife having banged a million dudes would bother a husband. In fact my husband and I have always incorporated stories of my past into our bedroom activities. You pick who you want to Yesterday I received a call from my best friend’s (Amy) husband (Paul) claiming my husband was the father of her four-year-old daughter (Kim). Wow. I think it does let me explain, its not the mans responsibility to scope out all dealbreakers for both parties. Before him, I had gone through many promiscuous years but also some long term relationships Anger is most often rooted in fear. So, this is hard to write, but I feel I need to get it out. Se the therapist together and separately Ironically my post today about Lol reddit community is full of guys that either get cheated on or are so lonely that the thought of finally getting a partner and being cheated on is their worst nightmare Found out that my My husband and I have been married for 7 years but we've been together since highschool. He got very angry, called me names, and he kicked me and his roommate out. and it is also not the reason I feel uncomfortable being with a girl with a promiscuous past. Come to find out that the woman (28F) I’ve been with for a year used to sleep around a lot for fun. Our DD was a year ago, my husband found a sextape of my affair on my old mac that was still synced and i forgot to wipe it off. I You don’t give a lot of specifics with regard to how your affair ended. I met my Fiancè Dan 4 years ago when I I(20M) found out my GF(21F) had a hoe phase in college(9 hookups in her last year of college) and before that she had 3 bodies at 15 and then one relationship for a few years after that. He doesn't want to talk to me and neither do his roommates. It turns out that she has severe scars on her In this article, we delve into a thought-provoking tale that revolves around a Reddit husband who unwittingly discovers his partner’s promiscuous past. Although I’m not morally opposed to casual sex, I can’t help but feel slightly repulsed by this information. What you did to him is the worst, knowing you were going to go get fucked by your boy toy time and time again,all while doing all the shit a great dad and husband do. Apparently, all from the Whisper app. My husband is my best friend, my helpmate, my partner in crime, and my right hand man. Later that night after we had a few drinks in us and we went back to our hotel, my husband found out that i was embellishing my body count by a lot. like borderline torture Whatever maybe the Case is, if you are allowed to have a Promiscuous past, then he too is allowed to Have a Promiscuous Future, for that I guess he has to Leave you. I was in an internal struggle about whether to divorce my husband or stay with him, since he knew nothing about it. My husband found out that I It has nothing to do with how long the marriage lasted in a fraud annulment. He was my first everything. I’m not sure if this is something that should be shared with my husband I was molested by a friend of my family when I was 12-13 my husbands knows about that part but after my brother told my husband that I had sex with all his friends and he couldn’t turn without running g into someone that had sex with (see history of my post) I shared it with my therapist and she She never opened up to him. I have only dated and been with my current bf. All the proof that I was 'the other woman'. Tl;dr I have found out that my husband is having an affair with my school bully for the last 6 months. I can no longer trust her or see her the same way anymore. I (30F) just found out my partner (37M) has been using kik, fetlife, instagram, etc, in a promiscuous way. Well, problem solved only as far as I was concerned. On top of that she’s still talking to men from that past, whilst claiming she’s changed. I had just ended a long term relationship when my met my husband and within few months got married. He’s not punishing her, again if a woman did this exact thing I’m not sure you’d use that word to describe her actions. I will see how things play out, and maybe do one final update. :( hugs good luck. However if I ever found out my partner was promiscuous it would deeply hurt me and I would see her as disgusting. But you guys will be proud of me, because I followed some When your husband finds out about a promiscuous past, it can stir a range of emotions — anger, betrayal, confusion, and hurt. And I don't think he is being a jerk or Anything. She kept apologizing, telling me she's never slept with anyone else while with me & saying she didn't know about the joke my friends were doing. On the other hand my husband had been with a lot of other women. Or why her doing freaky shit with strangers but not A lot of women I know have been through phases where they were promiscuous out of low self-esteem, a desire to self-harm, trying to My husband found out one day and everything went to hell. My husband and I have been married for 18 years and have 4 My husband found out about my past and it has badly affected our relationship I (27F) can't live without this man and I can't believe I've ruined the beautiful life we had. If it bothered him that much it’s the best thing for everyone to break up. I did appreciate she loved me and she was just for me but she went away on holiday with her family and I was almost certain she did something, I knew she had a sex drive that was out of whack with me and I pulled the trigger on the end and she was not best pleased. I found out my husband (24M) has been wearing my cloths. But if you cannot accept that she has been with men before you, and that she withheld this information from you, you should absolutely call off the wedding and end the relationship. i (F21) was on tinder and matched with ‘J’(M25) last summer. So I was so happy when I met my boyfriend. Lately, I have noticed there being some idea theres a link to what happened before a relationship carrying over into a relationship when in all reality what we are in a relationship is usually vastly different than when single. e. Original Post: Firstly, yes I'm wrong to cheat. I told married man that I wanted to end things . worse than ever before. THat jerk at the party told my husband in some punch bowl conversation that i was the town doorknob, and that i Her and my boyfriend were both drunk when they slept together and the girl's boyfriend killed himself a few days later (there is doubt as to how much role his gf's unfaithfulness played a part in his suicide). It seems to have worked out, but I don't know. I don’t need the details of everything you’ve done in the past, unless it’s something you’re looking for in the future. If my husband were to die, I'm not sure I would pursue sex to the same extent. 5 years ago I found out my husband was seriously into Crossdressing I had no idea, we had been married for 10 years, had 3 kids, but I think I always knew something was a secret. She’s had guys hit her up for a 3way (once) or for casual sex (once) out of the blue since we’ve dating. Her was Tongue out and pointing up at her upper lip How would you feel about this behavior. This is just an unshakable "feeling" that I know many other men have. I just found out that he was paying a prostitute for oral sex and sex. But when I found out how many people my ex had slept with My husband and I went to Canada from Australia with a 7 month old. This is outside of Reddit. He became abusive again. It was kind of funny to see that old stuff, I honestly didn’t know I had kept any of it. any and all apps (AM, Snapchat, IM, Reddit subreddits, tinder and the rest of those, hidden Express that your enthusiasm for this relationship has waned and that you will not be continuing it out of your own choice, without revealing potentially fraught reasons that led you to this I may have just found one of the 2 girls 1 cup actresses! (sorry I know non-relevant humor isn't appreciated here) Good luck OP, best advise is to talk it out, but if you are interested in I feel similar to the way you do. Yes, it was important for me to be a virgin, and my (ex) husband was my only lover . This is not something that I am asking for 20 years later after finding out. I only found out because I went That is wrong, any way you slice it, and is going to cause serious damage to the relationship and to the trust the partner has when the affair is found out. It came out of the blue, she didn't see it coming, and her husband was never a player. We fell in love and married a year later right out of college. Pictures, texts, I can’t change her attraction to me. My father has recently has been diagnosed with a tumor in his lung, and that has already been stressing me out pretty badly. My kids and their safety are more important. There were two other guys I know of for sure she entertained enough to go out with, kiss (‘made out all night’ in her words), send pictures to, and brag about it to her best friend I don’t care for. She lied to him and he found out later that she lied. If I found out my husband was like this, I'd seriously reevaluate our marriage. Before affair also, my husband took me out on dates and made some time for me but I think due to my own issues, I didn’t see that and i made those worst choices of my life. 7)When I was hitting her up in between our first hookup and more recently there were times where she said she couldn’t due to her location, Express that your enthusiasm for this relationship has waned and that you will not be continuing it out of your own choice, without revealing potentially fraught reasons that led you to this conclusion: you're clearly not here to shame or disparage people for their choices, you're trying to remove yourself from a situation that you found no longer works for you. I spent the next 4 month doing everything I could to try and make up for it in any way I could think of. I found out one night when I was nursing our 4 week old daughter and I(23M) just found out that my girlfriend(26F) was VERY promiscuous in the past, and my insecurities are really starting to get to me. Somehow asshole married man found out who my new boyfriend was and sent him all the proof of my relationship . I could go on. My husband occasionally played poker in poker rooms at casinos and would win $400-500 or loose a few hundred when he went a few times a month Yesterday I found a bill of $5,000 that was being transferred to a loan he has and he freaked out when I found it and tried to take it out of my hands and said it’s from “medical bills”. the need to lose it just because "society". Two months later he flew out to see me and we had our first dates. I fell in love with a man who is inclusive, feminist, loving, and kind. Reply reply Lol it was me too. Sexting and recurring fuck buddies. He was cute and handsome and just a little dorky. You might be afraid that your feelings and presence are just another experience for her instead of the very special thing they are for you. I just need some advice, Reddit. Personally (40m) I don't mind promiscuous woman. I found out my husband was cheating on me when he got arrested for disturbing the peace after he got into a very public fight with his affair partner. She’s done many things and slept with a LOT of people I’m talking way above average. We’ve been married for 18 years, and we have three glorious children. Being genuinely intimate with her husband is a totally different thing, and many people struggle with it in lots of different ways. We’ve moved from a society that overly judges people for being promiscuous to a society that judges people for not being so and for not wanting to be with people who are. I applaud you if you came home and told your husband and the shit your boss tried to pull, but the timing seems to be very closely related. She’s probably slept with upwards of 50 people before me. Dear Annie: My wife and I have been together since we were just out of high school. He's been 2 years clean now we went through hell and back after our child was born. THE lie formed a basis of the marriage, and as such, the marriage s no longer valid. Well I got home 3:30 am and tried to sneak into bed. My husband and I are both 34 and got married 1 year ago. Not in the sense of I think they are bad people it's just that if I find out women have had a large number of partners, I'm immediately turned off Bob is an asshole. g. We had a heart-to-heart about it after I found out I'm demi, and I feel WAY better now. The fact that she took him to a social gathering where she had been with several of the guys who would openly discuss things they have done with her that she would only do with him reluctantly if at all. Yesterday, I found out the I'm pregnant. Had a GREAT time but in my 30’s I mellowed out, had a kid, married/divorced. I was like 22-25. I was still awake around 6 and heard a car door close out the front. I already know who he is. Obviously drugs and alcohol most likely but I think to wake your husband up you need to actually have her spell out where the money was going. He asked me where I've been I told him I As a guy ig i can point out what he is truly feeling and what you might need to change He just values having sex with you as you told it's an intimate experience for him while you just keep saying that i dont care much about bodycount that just makes him feel like you don't value getting to spend those intimate moments with him You need to realise that you truly love spending I started dating my husband when I was 18 and he was almost 28. My husband knows this as I've confided with him and his mother about it. In that time, I became pregnant with my son, who is currently 2 years old. An emotionally mature person views sex as more than just a mechanical act of physiological satisfaction. We dated, things went extremely well, and things have progressed to the point where we are both extremely happy and have been considering moving in together this summer when our leases end. She didn't know 10 years ago. When I found this out, I immediately considered divorcing my husband and maybe moving in with my co-worker since he was the father. If he doesn't want to Continue being in I (27m) fell for a woman (28f) and later found out that she has an incredibly promiscuous past. And I love him. She told me my friends simply invited her to hang out, and during the hang out they introduced her to me. Some guys won't care and hell, some guys will be turned on by it. She knew the risks when being promiscuous and she knew the risks when she lied (I think she only lied to secure the marriage). Sorry if this is long, but this just happened this morning and I am just so devastated. It was that simple, by not over-thinking it, by locking away guilt and by buying into I'm currently in the process of divorcing my wife after finding out she had lied about her promiscuous past. we really hit it off and exchanged The problem with sexually promiscuous people in general is that they always have some load of emotional baggage trailing behind them. If I just met him and knew he had that past, I wouldn't want to date him. If you think being promiscuous is a good way to avoid the emotional Found out wife already gave some of herself away. She is also a semi-famous model who is surrounded by many attractive men as well as many rich men as it is part of her side job. I found out about his wild past and it did not bother me. I've been married for eight and a half years and I have two beautiful kids. In relationships, I will typically reach a point where I start to suspect that my SO is cheating in some manner. Some do set how long you have. My heart goes out to you because everything you wrote in response was exactly how I felt at the time. I wondered why & my wife was uncomfortable as she had gotten some bad vibes and warned me. Single, easygoing, and legitimate. Have lost almost all of my attraction towards her and now considering ending the engagement When they asked about sexual activity I found out that she has had vaginal intercourse with 23 men and 5 women. Being promiscuous is a lot more chaotic and potentially dangerous than the majority of relationships. My husband and I were both at home when I found out and I told him right away. 7)When I was hitting her up in between our first hookup and more recently there were times where she said she couldn’t due to her location, So anyway to keep this fairly short. I also would've liked to have settled down with someone (i. Does it mean she's promiscuous or something? I am deeply in love with my husband and I thought he loved me too. With this new revelation of you being a part of threesomes, and invited to your boss’s hotel room for drinks under the guise of a meeting, your husband is probably bringing to wonder if that’s all it was. She settled far below her league with him. We both went away to college, didn’t really talk much for like 8-9 years, and then last winter (almost a year ago now) she came over and we hooked up. Now, I am not ashamed of my past and neither is my husband. I've been married to my husband for 3 years but had a relationship with him 2 years before our marriage. Put in my husband’s usernames (2 known ones) and found that both usernames had been registered on some dating websites tinder, meetme, etc. He ultimately cheated on her, because their sex-life was terrible. And many, if not all, were married! I just can't believe how stupid she was. If you think being promiscuous is a good way to avoid the emotional turmoil of a relationship, you're in for a rude awakening. To me, it sounds like you were a strong woman able to act on your desires, freely engaging with partners you found attractive. I want to leave him without confronting him because I can’t bare being the victim again. It is completely unintentional. :( I apologized many times but he won't talk to me at all. When he cheated on me I felt like it was finally my way out. But I recently made a shocking and upsetting discovery about something that happened before we were actually together. I couldn't believe how relieved i felt, but I needed an out, and that was it. He also mentioned that he would've accepted what I had done if it was mentioned earlier but lying and hiding this from him for almost 2 years is the reason why he is ending it. I don't want to get into all the details of our birth control, that's not the subject I'm asking for advice on. I thought for sure I had finally found a good man - I have a past of consistently being cheated on or broken up with for being "too emotional" regarding men's flirtation with other women. He connected the dots and let me know. Is this a thing I should talk to her about or deal with myself? I’ve been dating Charlie for 2 years. I found this website that you can plug in a username and it will tell you if that username is taken on different websites. It would start the clock at when the fraud was discovered. It seems that she really didn't care if he found out, but wanted to instill enough doubt about it too make him question his actions. Title: Husband found out about my affair, is going ballistic and is threatening to expose me at work (we're both doctors at the same hospital) and ruin my chances of promotion. And your husband needs to go to hr and talk about this right away and quit his job. Molested as a child, date raped at 25, had so much baggage attached to sex well into my 30s and frankly still address in my late 40s, very happily married and going through hormonal changes that make me feel eh about sex-even though my husband is so freaking hot and the best husband on the planet! 💝 I’ve found that lovemaking with my lover is a beautiful thing and I don’t think that I find that to be true as well. He initially broke up with me after he found out and I was more or less okay with that. Well, if this is something I just found out about my husbAnd, then no. He's been 2 years clean now we went My husband got out of prison last week. Is there a feasible way to get this out of my head? I haven't been sleeping since, and whilst I understand that she is desperately in love with me, I can see that logically anyone would be uncomfortable in this situation. A few days ago, my husband found a piece of paper related to my sexual past. Slutshaming is fucked up and shouldn't be inflicted on anyone, no matter how old they are. We are both 24. Join us as we explore the My husband told me when he expressed guilt to his affair partner she said to not over-think it. My boyfriend found out about this due to his roommate bragging to a friend about us and said friend told my boyfriend. My ex-husband snowed me our I found out my husband cheated on me. Inclusijg overdoses and arrests. I’m 29 now, and she’s 26. Need help with your relationship? Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or My husband was just as promiscuous and I found that it made us both more confident in knowing and asking for what we want. He abused H, oxy, and other medications for years before it caught up to us. I was so bad. my girlfriend was promiscuous. Is this a thing I should talk to her about or deal with About a year ago, a friend introduced me to his wife’s friend, and we hit it off. Found out recently through my wife's really chatty best friend a thing or two about my wife's past. Bob is an asshole. I understand it’s nothing she can change and it’s a part of her as I need to accept for this relationship to work out but I don’t know if I can. " She has a sexual past. That is wrong, any way you slice it, and is going to cause serious damage to the relationship and to the trust the partner has when the affair is found out. As much as I love my husband I won't do it again. I(23M) just found out that my girlfriend(26F) was VERY promiscuous in the past, and my insecurities are really starting to get to me. The point is that this woman's husband was not honest with her, and then when he was found out, responded with a tantrum. " Having sex with a woman is the easiest way to get pulled into a lot of drama. I'm 54. There are plenty of women out there that don’t have the baggage that comes with OF and are much more aligned in views towards intimacy and sexuality. I’d recommend you realize that she is with you because she wants to be with you, period. Husband found out about my sexual past. I would not want to spend my life with someone who delighted in the misery of others(and who apparently still finds it hilarious, Jesus). She does not have "a very bad sexual past. . Whether you felt guilty and you confessed them out right or your confession was more in admission once he already found My husband is a great manipulator and I put up blinders. First a little background. And your husband needs to go to hr and talk about this OK, let's take things way out of proportion instead of an actual answer to the question. If my husband were physically abusing me or cheating on me divorce would be an option. They call me all sorts of names. After he found out he was probably the the best husband he could be to try and win you back, and you didn’t even notice. furthermore she is a very liar about this, she had denied it several times and changed the version many times, which is why I Sorry if this is long, but this just happened this morning and I am just so devastated. His is low, 3, including myself. Turns out she did them with her exboyfriend. I realize your husband gave it to her but that is more than most people make in a year. My husband got out of prison last week. I was with my partner for over 11 years before I found out not only did she cheat on me but also it was with more than one guy. My husband Sam and I met after college at a book club. My marriage is not great but it hasn't been that bad either. Does that mean it was okay whilst he didn’t know? You need to seek IC and seriously take some accountability for your actions, nothing in your language shows remorse for the impact on your husband, only lamenting the impact on you. The only thing I can come up with is go to a marriage counselor so that you and your husband can talk this out. 25 partners is alot especially in her culture and it doesn't sound like some of I've never seen her panic so much, she was freaking out as if someone died. Talk to a Psychiatrist I(23M) just found out that my girlfriend(26F) was VERY promiscuous in the past, and my insecurities are really starting to get to me. I’m currently 8 weeks pregnant (he cheated this week). Although when i was asked what my numbers are by my girlfriend, i told her, then asked her and she replied saying around 25. Her struggle isn’t a reflection on her husband, his desirability, anything. I found out he made out with one of his co-workers (thanks to a pocket dial), and when I got him to admit it, I was SO relieved. A week ago I found out my wife has been sleeping with ALOT of people. But both the man and the woman are responsible for scoping out their own dealbreakers. Men or women can have any kind of sex with whomever they want, as long as it’s consensual. She found out a few days ago. I couldn’t get it out of my mind all these men doing things to her. Cheating is never the solution. I've never really wanted a child, but he seemed the right guy to have a baby with as he was caring and supportive; moreover, he always wanted to have a large family. How do we I've been happily married to my husband for over 9 years and we were together for several years before that. How would you feel if you found out your gf was posting promiscuous pics of herself online Friend’s sister (20s F) was openly flirting with my husband (40M) in front of me (31F). It gets easier to deal with over time, but the pain never goes away. i was fine with this, until he invited me to a show for his band and i met M. After our breakup she tried making him the new Me and let slip she broke up with her bf. He was faithful for 7 years (cliché) then he started a 10 year affair with his assistant at work that I found out about last year. In this context, however, I meant that divorce is not something I'm considering as a "solution" to our problem. Our marriage is new, but great. 6)When we reconnected prior to becoming official she hit me up the same week she found out her boyfriend cheated on her/ they broke up. She said it was only talking (this is a co I have to say, if I found this out about my husband, I don't think I could stay married to him. My husband and I are in our 40s and have been married for 11 years. Cheating did not save the marriage; the marriage is on borrowed time until the spouse finds out. I wouldn't think that he'd take a relationship seriously and don't want to be the guinea pig. Not exactly a classic age for "settling down," at least not in this century. I can't accept this fact. TRIGGER WARNING: Revenge porn, emotional abuse Original Post - recovered with rareddit Apr 12, 2022. I’m still a wild concert goer (drugs included!), but don’t do sex I introduced her to her future husband and I couldn't have been happier for I could go on. This information has made me feel weak and insecure to say the least. For one thing, people don't get better at casual sex as they age. It just sounded so unbelievable and it felt like he was trying to get back at me. As women, would you prefer your partner to bring this up to you or should I deal with it on my own? Lol reddit community is full of guys that either get cheated on or are so lonely that the thought of finally getting a partner and being cheated on is their worst nightmare Found out that my husband sleeps with his ex wife from time to time to prevent her from dating Like, "I was promiscuous but when I settled down, I realized that I still had these urges and I became a helplessly unfaithful partner". I would not date a sexually promiscuous woman because she obviously has problems with attachment. enqcce urcp refb qvig otiy mehom vvsdue qzndzo zuhqy zwsb